Snakes and Stones May Break My Bones but My Compassionate God Will Never Hurt Me
“Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone?” Matthew 7:9-11
In the Middle East they had lots of pebbles and big boulders that looked like typical middle-eastern bread. Would a father give his hungry son a piece of stone? The answer is “no.” Please remember that Christ was talking by the Sea of Galilee where the staple diet was fish and bread. Verse 10:
“Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake?”
The word “serpent” (in some translations) means a poisonous snake, a snake that will do you harm. Both the snake and the stone will do you harm. (The stone will break your tooth). Notice now verse 11:
“If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!”
What did he mean that “we are evil”? He is telling us that we not only have a bent toward evil, but we poor, sinful human beings are evil, unable to do something good. Paul also uses the words “much more” to show a contrast with our Father, Who is good.
In other words, Why are you doubting your heavenly Father? Doesn’t it make sense to you that if sinful human beings know how to give good gifts to their children, how much more will our Father which is in heaven give good things to those who ask Him.
The same passage is repeated in Luke, except Luke uses another word where Matthew uses “good things” or “good gifts” in verse 11. Go to Luke 11:9-13 and you tell me what words Luke used instead of “good gifts.” You will notice that the passage is almost identical to that in Matthew:
“So I say to you: Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened. Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!”
You see here that the “Holy Spirit” is the “good gift.” Why? Because the title that Christ gave to the Holy Spirit is paracletos, which is a very important word. It means someone who is by your side to help you, to comfort you, to take you through trials, to be there for you. Please remember that the Holy Spirit is a divine person. He is the One Who gave Christ victory. By the grace of the Holy Spirit, Christ was able to conquer sin, the devil, and the world. That same Spirit is by our side to help us, to strengthen us, to comfort us when we are discouraged. That is why we now have to learn to depend on that Holy Spirit, the “good thing” that God gives us.
It is nice to be able to help each other, but there is coming a time when we will be scattered just like the disciples were. Jesus in Gethsemane said to the three disciples, “Please wait and pray for me. I need your comfort, I need your encouragement.” Three times He came and what did He find them doing? Sleeping. And then, when He really needed them and He was taken captive, what did they do? They fled. But Jesus knew One Person Who would not forsake Him and that is God. God has sent you His Holy Spirit — a Gift above all good gifts. He is there by your side and you can talk to Him. Unfortunately, you cannot see Him, because the Spirit is like the air; you can’t see the air, but you can feel it. Do you believe that He is by your side? He is there to comfort you, to strengthen you, to meet your needs. When you tell God that you are discouraged, He will reply, “My Spirit is by your side and He will Comfort you.”
We human beings need to see something, especially in this television world that we all belong to. We need to practice and to believe that He is there to help us through trials, to answer our needs (myself included). That is the kind of God that we worship. A God Who loves us, cares for us, and will never forsake us. Jesus does not want us to think of our heavenly Father as a stern judge who wants us to suffer for our sins.
I want to conclude by giving you an example from the Sermon on the Mount which Jesus has given us. He said, “When you pray, how do you address God?” “Abba, Father.” “Abba” was the common term which the Jews used when they were addressing their earthly father. Just like in Europe fathers are called “papa” and here we say “daddy.” Abba was the common term for the earthly father, but no Jew would dare address God as “Abba.” When Jesus told the disciples to call their Father in heaven “Abba,” that was radical. I can imagine some saying, “This is blasphemy,” because, when the scribes wrote the name of God, they would use a special pen, they would never use the common pen which they used to write the scripture. They were so scared to use the name of God and they were scared of God.
Florence Litthauer is a famous speaker who has spoken to many Adventist audiences around the United States. She gave a series to a women’s group in South Carolina. Below is a statement that she gave regarding our denomination. One of the Adventist ladies asked her to describe her impressions of Seventh-day Adventists after speaking at an Adventist gathering. It is good to hear from a non-Adventist source what their impression is of the Adventist religion. Here is her impression:
“Adventists seem to be very aware of their distinctive doctrines but appear to have a low level of confidence in their relationship to God. Adventists spend time in Bible Study each day, at least some of them, but very few spend a significant amount of time talking to God in prayer. Adventists mistakenly attempt to substitute an intellectual grasp of their distinctive truths for the assurance of salvation which every believer can enjoy in Christ. This substitution naturally results in spiritual insecurity and the dominance of guilt.”
What a tragic observation! Sadly, it is too often the case. I hope that we will eradicate from our own people this insecurity. I pray that it will be eradicated in myself. We need to have the assurance that, “I can come to my Father, not because I am good but because He has redeemed me in His Son and He has adopted me while I was still a sinner.” When the time of crisis comes (and we will all face it at some time or another— maybe personal crisis — but ultimately we will all face crisis) we need to all know that God will never forsake us. Our church might forsake us, our friends might forsake us, our pastor might forsake us, but I tell you that our Lord Jesus Christ, our heavenly Father, and His Holy Spirit will never forsake you; they are here by your side.
This is why we need to understand what Christ is saying in terms of our relationship with the Father. It must be the relationship of a child to a loving and compassionate father. And this is also why the enemy works so hard to destroy a child’s relationship with their father. The enemy does not want us to know what a loving father looks like. So...if you do not know what a loving father looks like then please read the following story that is taken from the CBS Morning News and a Yahoo News story.
But before you read the story please keep in mind something about our justice system: there are minimum and maximum sentencing laws. This judge sentenced this man to the minimum sentence that he could. But our heavenly judge is bound by no state laws and is able to give us infinite mercy. Our heavenly judge (God), according to the entire book of Romans (not to mention the rest of the Bible also), is looking for a way to make us innocent. Did you catch that? God is working out our innocence and not our guilt. As if that is not the best news ever, in addition to His role of Judge and Advocate, Jesus came and paid the penalty for us. In Christ we are made righteous.
The following story depicts the Heart of our God. It demonstrates the kind of “in the trenches” God He is. It is such a perfect story because when Jesus told His disciples that He was sending a Comforter, He used a very special word to describe the Comfort. It was a word based on the Roman legal culture of the day and that word was Paraclatos. Back then, if you were arrested, you were assigned someone to walk through the legal process with you. That is pretty important. But the Paraclatos was also responsible for your needs and your comfort while you spent time in jail. The Paraclatos would bring you food, blankets, encourage you, keep you company, bring letters from family, etc. It was their job to make jail as positive an experience as jail can be. When Jesus says that He is sending the Paraclatos He is saying that our current circumstances on earth may be difficult but we are not alone because we have the Paraclatos, the Comforter.
When Joe Serna was arrested for drinking and driving, one of the terms of his probation was that he would not consume alcohol for a predetermined amount of time. However, after lying on a urine test, Joe was brought back to the courtroom, this time in front of Judge Lou Olivera. Judge Olivera felt he had no choice but to sentence Joe to a night in jail for breaking probation, a sentence which was carried out.
This might seem like your pretty typical courtroom story, but the story of Joe and Judge Olivera had really just begun. As with most things, there are two sides to every story. You might have read the first paragraph of this story and assumed you knew everything about Joe Serna because of his apparent alcoholism, but there is so much more to this man and his journey than you can discover upon first glance at the details.
Joe is a decorated veteran who served three terms in Afghanistan and has two purple hearts to show for his bravery. This Green Beret survived an IED and a suicide bomber, as well as a terrifying experience getting trapped in a sinking truck with his fellow soldiers. This moment (in the truck) is credited as Joe’s most terrifying of all, despite everything he had seen.
While following a creek, the road gave way, causing the truck Joe and his men were in to be submerged under water. Unable to move, Joe was trapped in place and forced to feel the water rise up his legs, his torso, and his neck. Finally, it stopped at his chin. Joe was the only soldier to make it out of the truck alive. Considering this terrifying brush with death, as well as his other horrifying experiences in the war, Joe suffers from PTSD. One of his triggers, which he blames on the sinking truck, is a fear of small, confined spaces.
Such as a jail cell.
“I knew what Joe was going through and I knew Joe’s history,” Judge Olivera told CBS Evening News. “I knew he had to be held accountable, but I just knew…I had to go with him.”
The next afternoon, Judge Olivera got a text telling him, “FYI, Joe Serna is reporting to jail today.” Judge Olivera crossed the street to wish Serna luck at the local jail. The jailer opened the cell where the judge found Joe to be highly agitated, his white T-shirt soaked with sweat.
“You OK?” asked Judge Olivera.
Joe, his eyes locked on the floor, mumbled an answer. Suddenly Judge Olivera remembered the story of Joe’s rollover and the lingering claustrophobia it had caused. The judge asked the jailer whether he had an open cell, one with bars instead of cinder blocks and a door. He didn’t. The judge turned to Joe and asked him,
“Do you trust me?” (This is the time in the story where we ask ourselves if we trust in God.)
“Yes, sir,” said Joe.
“Then get in my car,” Judge Olivera said.
Judge Olivera drove Joe to nearby Lumberton, North Carolina, where he knew the local chief of police. An hour later, Joe Serna, dressed in a jail-issued orange jumpsuit, walked into a ten-by-seven-foot one-person cell in the Robeson County Detention Center. As the heavy steel door slammed behind him, Serna sat on the hard steel cot. He felt his shoulders tightening, his heart beating faster. He tried to fight the familiar feeling of dread, but as his body tensed, the gunmetal-gray walls began to close in on him.
He knew he would soon be flashing back to that armored truck, feeling helpless as the water rose up to his chin, reliving the horror of that night. His mind was racing. “How do I get out of here?” he thought. “There is no way out!”
Then the door jangled as the jailer unlocked it. Standing in the open doorway was Judge Olivera, carrying two dinner trays.
“OK, Joe, are you ready?” Judge Olivera asked.
“Where are we going?” asked Joe.
“We aren’t going anywhere,” Judge Olivera said. “We are staying here.”
Joe was confused. But a few minutes later, after the jailer brought in a two-inch-thick foam mattress and once again locked the heavy steel door behind him, Joe understood. The judge was a FELLOW war veteran. Judge Olivera realized that this cell was no better than the first one. So he decided to spend the night with a comrade in arms.
Judge Olivera’s compassion nearly drove Joe to tears. But he managed to regain his composure enough to beg Olivera to take the cot and let him sleep on the floor.
“Judge, I can’t give you the floor,” he said.
“Call me Lou, Joe. And I have slept on the floor before. In fact, you and I have slept in worse places.”
Moments after Joe was locked away for his one night in jail (a very light sentence), he was so surprised by Judge Olivera, who came to stay the entire night with him while he met the consequences of breaking his probationary terms. But, with a loaf of homemade meatloaf and a change of clothes, the judge accompanied Joe through the night, talking with him about their families and their lives.
Joe said that with Judge Olivera there, “the walls were no longer there.” His anxiety and his fears melted away and he was able to have a genuine conversation with this wonderful and comforting person.
Our God is that comforting Father and that compassionate judge. He is in the “jail cell” with us. He knows what it is like to “go to war” because He has fought the good fight of faith too and the encouraging news is, He won! He gained the victory over the enemy, sin, and death. He never leaves us alone. Ever. He sends us the Paraclatos to take care of our every need and He is with us all through the night so that we can sleep a peaceful sleep.
What I have learned from being being a daughter of the King is this: I am not alone. We are not alone. He, the Father, is with me and He is with you too. And, if you ask anything according to His will, He will answer you.
These are scary times in which we live right now but we do not need to be afraid because the Judge is our Father too. He will not give us snakes and stones but He will give us love, justice, and mercy. The thing about having our Father as the King of the Universe is that this gives us hope. His love gives us hope. His being our constant Comforter and our “Paraclatos” gives us hope. And hope does not disappoint.
Having our Judge invest His love into us will slowly change us. The love of our Father changes us! I did some investigative work to find Joe from the story above because every good story needs a good ending and simply knowing that Joe was not alone in that jail cell was not enough for me. I was not happy to use this feel-good story and Joe would be in prison or something much worse. But I also knew better than that. My experiences as a mentor at the Juvenile Detention Center have taught me that investing love and time into a person usually changes the situation for the better and I was right. Joe is doing well. He achieved a degree in Accounting and Finance from Methodist University and went on to write a book on his experiences being deployed in Afghanistan during wartime all culminating in his experiences with Judge Olivera. Both Joe Serna and Judge Olivera are national speakers and I have invited him to do an interview with my husband and I to which he readily agreed.
I myself have spent enough time in front of judges to know that, when you mess up and break your probationary terms, you do not expect love, compassion, and company in your jail cell. You pray for mercy but, really, inside you expect and prepare for the proverbial stone and a poisonous snake. I wonder how many of us pray to God but inside we are, just as Florence Litthaur observed, filled with doubt about our own salvation. I think this is because we know that we are personally undeserving of mercy and compassion and we believe that we have not worked hard enough yet doing good to cancel out what we are on the inside. Thankfully salvation does not work like that at all. Salvation is just as sure as John 3:16 promises, “For God so loved the world that WHOSOEVER will believe in Him might not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16. It does not matter how imperfect you may feel because, praise God, salvation is not about feelings. Salvation is about your BELIEF in the Jesus Christ as the Son of God and His power to change anyone. If you pray to God and say you believe and want Him to save you, do you think that God will give you a stone or a snake? No. That is not the Divine and Compassionate Judge we serve. He will give you forgiveness, love, and eternal life.
God as our Compassionate Judge has only one concern and that is for our good. Each one of us is like Joe and in need of mercy. I know that I certainly am. But though our righteousness is as filthy rags, each one of us may think of ourselves as a “daddy’s girl” or “the favorite son” when it comes to how God feels about us. He will never refuse you anything that is for your good. He will never give us a stone or a snake when we ask Him for something but He will give us the very best that heaven can offer each of us. We can rest in that truth forever.